Marriage problems are targeted with practical solutions in the following kit.
These book chapters will give you some good ideas to help your an help your relationship even if you don’t seek counseling:
A few words about why and how this books was written.
This chapter illustrates how our own fear of shame is the greatest obstacle to resolving marriage problems.
Love based relationships do not have as much stability or resilience as do integrity based relationships. Ths chapter describes the strong foundation of a relationship that can stand the test of time.
A vital relationship needs to be dynamic and not static. Opposing needs and emotional states must be kept balanced over time. This chapter unravels the paradox.
Relationships must be fed. It’s not enough to just feel. This chapter explains the fundamentals about how attachment needs can be effectively met. (Purchase the book here)
A very common relationship killer operates far below our awareness. It leads to the numbing loss of affection that accompanies many marriage problems.
This chapter outlines the other most common relationship killers.
If you’re starting to numb out and lose attraction, this chapter suggests what you do to start resuscitating the part of yourself that’s going dormant.
This chapter gives you tools to ward off sublte inhibition that can strangle your affection and cause marriage problems.
This chapter describes various forms of constructive and destructive conflict. Tools for appropriate management are provided.
This chapter contains helpful tools for negotiating chores, structuring finances, and dealing with in-laws.
This chapter describes elements that foster great sex as well as some guidelines on how to get there.
This chapter discusses planning for change.
Here is some of Dr. Kaye’s advice to visitors who have asked about various marriage problems. Click on the topic below that corresponds to your interest:
Relationship Due Diligence List (PDF) – Print out this list of responsibilities that protect and promote a happy relationship. You can then evaluate how disciplined you are. A failure in a specific responsibility may indicate where you are experiencing emotional dysregulation of that discipline.